I agree even more with the comedian that I mention in the Moonta post, how when you have someone already then somehow you become attractive to other people. I think this is probably because you aren’t actually looking, you might even be more confident, I don’t know what it is but I totally agree with him.
While the whole debacle (Can’t really call it a relationship – What was I doing with him?) was going on with Milky, I went to a nightclub with a friend, the same night I saw Security Guard while he was off duty but we were minding our own business just having a dance & enjoying the night. My friend is in a serious relationship & I have a Milky, so we’re just there to let our hair down.
We’re in a smaller room of the nightclub listening to my friends favorite DJ, standing right at the front, dancing with all the others, when this guy taps me on the shoulder & shouts to me ‘my friend likes you, he’s just behind you, so if you like him just turn around, he’s a really nice guy but he’s shy’ I automatically think of Milky, who is already arranged to come over to my house the nex
t night & really just can’t be bothered with someone that has to get his friend to tell me that he likes me, I really didn’t think that this would happen in my 30’s, I’d had it happen maybe once or twice before in my very early 20’s. I tell this guy that I am kinda seeing someone but thanks anyway & go back to dancing, not thinking much of it.
Later back in the main room, I am facing away on the dance floor & I make eye contact with some guy ever so briefly but he takes it as his cue to come talk to me. He says that his friend told me that he liked me, I said oh yeah, trying to just enjoy my night out dancing, but he asks if I’m having a good night (original) & I remember talking about how old we were, he was 30. I did think he was kinda cute, he wasn’t really my type but perhaps if I was in a different head space with Milky I may have kissed him at least, but I didn’t. He dances next to me for a while & tries to have a bit of a conversation, but I can see that he is really drunk by this point.
He leaves the dance floor & I go back to having a good time, also having to stop some other boy from grabbing my hips & trying to pull me closer to him, when I look around & there are about 20 guys all dancing around us but no women. I say to my friend that I think we’re at the end of the road, where all the women who can’t walk in their shoes have gone home & all that are left are the people in appropriate footwear & now it’s crunch time for the men if they want to pick up.
I go to the bathroom & on the way there I bump into this guy, he stops me & says ‘hey I think you’re a really cool chick & seem heaps chilled, I just wondered if you wanted to go for coffee sometime’ Awww that’s so cute, I really don’t want to though, so I have to let this poor guy down easy. I let him know that it’s sweet he asked but I’m kinda of seeing someone so I can’t. He says ‘yeah no worries, I just wanted to see because you seem really chilled & nice’ I thank him for the invite & make my bathroom excuse to leave. I’m glad this guy built up the courage to ask me out, even though his friend probably told him that I was seeing someone, so it’s good for him.
Looking back on it now, I probably should’ve taken him up on his offer for a coffee, who knows what could’ve happened, especially since now that things have ended with Milky. Hindsight is such a wonderful thing!