After my friend & I both ended our relationships, obviously mine with Boyfriend, many many years ago, we used to go every Saturday night to the same club, parting all night. It wasn’t about picking up, it was just us being two free happy single women. It was some of the best times of my life. At this club back in 2008 I knew one of the dancers through a friend of a friend so I of course talked to her as I hadn’t seen her in years. She introduced me to her other dancer friend who was no longer dancing at the club since they put in poles for the girls to do pole dancing. This girl was so beautiful to me, she had perfect hair & was just a lovely person, she introduced us to her boyfriend who was a DJ at the club. I remember talking to him vaguely & never thought much of it.
Years later I was online dating & DJ came up as a prospect, I sat there looking at him for ages trying to figure out if it was him or not & should I swipe him, which I do just to see if he has liked me in return. He did, it’s a match & so I say hello, but I never ever get a response from him. He never deletes me or talks to me & a few months later I delete my account thinking nothing much of it.
Being the idiot that I am, I signed back up months later & he’s a prospect again, so I swipe to see if he’s a match again & he’s said yes too so we’re a match. I always say hello to people when I match with them so again, I said hello or something but again, he never answers or deletes me (which is what happens usually if they don’t want to talk to you.) A few months later I delete my account again.
About a year or even more later, I’m at a nightclub reunion event & I’m walking through the he crowd & who should I see but DJ. He’s not DJing but just hanging out with some people, we make eye contact before I just keep walking past, I don’t talk to him, though I am tempted, but I figure if he wanted to talk to me he had two chances online that he never bothered to utilise.
The next day I start searching his music, to see if he’s still mixing tracks & I find a site where he has uploaded mixes of dance songs that I really like. I find about five mixes so I follow him on that site & become obsessed with listening to them. Of course while listening to them I start having little day dreams, thinking that we’d get together & he would make a mix for his ‘beautiful girlfriend’ & then once we’re married his ‘amazing wife.’ Seriously my mind is just crazy! Hahaha.
A month later walking around the German festival with a friend & a friend of a friend who had lost our mutual friend, he says ‘there’s that DJ that always wears hats’ I turn & see him, I say ‘oh I know that guy’ he says ‘no you don’t’ so I tell him his name & he says yeah how do you know him. I don’t bother with my stalker story & just say from years ago in the clubs. Seeing him just makes me more obsessed with his music which I find on an obscure music app & I listen to it every day while I’m driving.
Finally I snap & think this is just stupid, so I delete the tracks I downloaded & find another artist to listen to on Thursday. I go out for dinner on Friday night, sitting on the side walk in Rundle Street & who walks past, DJ! This is typical for me, I just get someone out of my mind & they somehow appear.
It’s been ages since then & nothing has ever happened but he still pops up everywhere. I recently became friends with my hairdresser on Facebook & she’s bloody friends with him. Adelaide is just too small. I did let myself check if he’s added new mixes online every now & then, knowing that I will love it regardless, however I do notice when he uses the same song from a mix he did before. That just shows you what a fricken stalker I am!
If I was a person that believed in signs, surely that’s enough signs to make me act on it isn’t it? I was bumping into him every few months, but he never acted on it either & I figure he now just thinks of me as a stalker as I only just found out that on the music app, every time someone listens to a song it alerts the person who posted it who is listening to it. Yep, he was getting a daily notifications with my name! AWESOME.