I love this concept. I was only just talking about this the other day, the fact I have done so many unsafe things in my dating life & how I have been so bloody lucky nothing terrible has happened to me! I am so thankful for that, however this is a great safety tool that all single people should adopt with their friends.
Ladies… have you had dessert?
This question could be life-changing…
Yes, that rich, flourless chocolate cake COULD actually change your life, but have you asked a friend recently if they’ve had dessert?
After a recent spate of great and not-so-great Tinder/Bumble/pick up in a local bar dates, in one of our weekly dish sessions, my concerned friend expressed that she was worried that my sister or myself might find ourselves in a dangerous situation. Obviously we always tell each other our location, his name, photo, any random information about him that we have accumulated, but in this imaginary scenario, our usual “are you ok?” message might be met with aggression where we might be forced to reply ‘yes’, when in fact, we’re not ok. So we devised a plan…
Have you had dessert?
A discreet and seemingly harmless question, sent approximately 30 minutes into a date, with a series of code responses:
*Yes, I had chocolate means the date is going very well!
*Yes, I had vanilla means it’s good, but a bit boring.
*Yes, I had pistachio means it’s ok, but I’m ready to go home.
All of the above answers indicate that we are all good. Unfortunately, for my sister, I like to mix and match, so she often receives ‘chocolatey vanilla’, or something completely different. Sometimes, when I forget the code, she gets things like “pancakes with blueberries”, because I actually had that. Or when it’s been really spectacular: “triple chocolate with whipped cream and extra chocolate chips with sprinkles”. Obviously, all men would love to be this one, but it’s reserved for a certain Canadian gentleman… well, they’re his words, but I fully endorse them
If things are not going well…
*No, I’m thinking of having a chocolate sundae means it’s not going well, but I’m ok.
*No, I’m thinking of having some rocky road (get it? The road is rocky?) means it’s getting worse, be on standby.
*No, I’m thinking of having a banana split (split… right?) means if I don’t contact you in the next 10 mins, call or come and get me.
*No, I’m thinking of having a banana split – DO YOU WANT ONE TOO? means get me out now.
And one that we will hopefully never have to use: No, tell Dad to get some donuts means call the police and tell them what’s happening.
We wrote this code laughing hysterically, as my son walked into the room asking ‘oh, are you guys getting dessert?’, but we realised that it’s not really a laughing matter. I mean, realistically, if something were really wrong, chances are we wouldn’t be using code, but it makes it a little more fun…
And let me be clear, this is not about sex… we can have a different one for that
So here I am, writing to you all, sharing stories so we can support each other through good dates, bad dates, heartbreak and excitement and of course, mind-blowing sex!!
I hope you’ll continue to read this and share it with your friends.
Stay tuned for more dating adventures…
To check out this blog: https://wordpress.com/read/blogs/156817670/posts/9
Just as you practice safe sex, please practice safe dating!